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She is strong, yet she is fragile. Full of emotion and still steady as a rock. She is far too busy, but somehow still has time for me. Her face is sometimes marked by the worries of life, Yet each mark and each wrinkle makes me love her even more. She has wisdom that I will never achieve. She is innocent… Read More

Who am I?  Identity is everything.  If you don't know who you are, well, you go crazy.  People spend they're entire lives searching for the answer to the question "Who am I?".  So many of us seem to find our identity things that end up causing us to, ironically, lose ourselves.  Things like fame, fortune, a nice car, a nice house, lots of 'stuff', our friends, our talents, and yes,… Read More

Marriage is awesome.  I love it.  Don't get me wrong though, its freakin hard work.  And it seems like every time I turn around I hear a story about someone's marriage going down the crapper.  It makes me so sad. The Canadian statistics for divorce state 37.7% of all Canadian marriages will end in divorce before 30 years.  Which is down from 1987 when it was 50.6%.  75% of all… Read More

Being a parent is tough.  There are so many worries, stresses, and annoyances.  I'm always wondering and hoping that I am doing a good job.  Basically, I'm just praying that I don't totally screw the kid up completely like my parents did with me.  Ha ha.  Hmm Hmm...anyway.  I am a firm believer in the idea that the positives need to outweigh… Read More

The Bible says that Noah was a righteous man.  That he was blameless among men, and he walked with God.  That's pretty much what I learned about him growing up.  And its true, cause its written there in Genesis 6.  So its easy to read the story and just take it at face value, thinking "God used Noah to save the world because he was perfect".  But it doesn't say he was perfect. … Read More

Being a Christ follower is not easy, but then, it was never supposed to be.  So many times Jesus tells us of the troubles that will follow us when we turn our lives over to him.  But I think, the hardest part for me, and I'm being totally transparent here, is the daily struggle of a life of change.  Changing to become more like Jesus.  Its so hard.  And I'm not talking about… Read More

"I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength."  Phillipians 4:13  That is the verse I quoted to my wife in the middle of yet another argument about my struggles with porn.  There I was smack dab in the middle of an all out war for my soul, Charlene crying and telling me I need to get help and go to a group for guys like me struggling with addictions to porn and sex and… Read More

So today I had one of the most interesting, scary, and wonderful conversations I have ever had with my 8 year old daughter.  A girl in her class recently lost her father.  Actually, he died just last week.  Today when I picked Raynae up from school she told me that she finally found out what happened to her friends dad.  Apparently, he has been sick for quite some time and has been in and out of the hospital, until he killed himself.  When Raynae told me that I was immediately saddened.  Now, I have heard God speak to me before.   To my everlasting shame, I have not always listened or obeyed.  I have had many conversations with Raynae… Read More

There was once a great and noble King whose land was terrorized by a crafty dragon. Like a massive bird of prey the scaly beast delighted in ravaging villages with his fiery breath. Hapless victims ran from their burning homes only to be snatched into the dragon's jaws or talons. Those devoured instantly were deemed more fortunate than those carried back to the creature's lair to be… Read More

We just finished a series entitled "Can You See Him?".  It brings something to mind for me;  Can I?  I claim that I do.  I say it all the time.  I talk about Jesus when ever I step up to the microphone.  I talk about how he has changed my life and made me a different person.  Every single time I lead worship I open up just a little bit more and let people in to my messed up existence.  I rip… Read More