Help Me Help You
You know what, after today, I can totally see how a marriage could evolve and change to the point where one person would throw in the towel and call it quits. Don’t get me wrong, I was no where near that point today. I can just see how it WOULD happen. Most people probably think that Pastor’s have great marriages and that we don’t have problems, but you know what, we do. We’re people too. Today was probably the worst fight my wife and I have ever had. And I can count on two fingers how many fights we have had. I don’t think I have ever been that mad at my wife before. And I don’t think she has ever been that mad at me, and trust me I have done alot to make her mad. Today was the absolute perfect example though, of a classic case of miscommunication. The crazy thing is, it was no one person’s fault. It was both of us just simply not communicating with the other, which blew up and out of proportion and out of control. I said some things that I didn’t mean and some things that I regret. I learned a few things today. One, that you can never ever ever underestimate the power of actually saying what you really mean and not just thinking the other person ‘gets it’. Two, that to be a leader in your home, a real leader, it sometimes means, scratch that, it should always mean that you are the first to back down and the first to ask for forgiveness. It also means you obey what the bible says and not ‘let the sun go down on your anger’. I knew I had to do one thing today before I went to sleep, and that was to resolve it. Otherwise I would go to bed angry and start to harbor those feelings against the woman I love more than my own life. And that would definitely lead to the end of the best thing I have ever and will ever know. So, to sum up, 1. never underestimate the importance of communication, 2. Be a man and say you’re sorry for crying out loud, 3. Don’t do it again idiot.
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